Sexual Abuse

I was reading a book, and it struck me how absurd it is that our laws remain so archaic when it comes to accountability for domestic violence and marital sexual violence. Consider this: the very same actions that would constitute serious crimes when committed against a stranger somehow become legally ambiguous—or even tacitly permitted—simply because they occur within a marriage or family relationship. It’s genuinely disturbing…marriage without rights against nonconsensual sex is “nothing more nor less than legalized prostitution”.

Tho it is a book about sexual violence and harassment, the pride behind this hierarchy of power still made me reflect on myself…

” The trait of pride, which underlies so much abuse of power—along with its relatives, greed and envy. The proud treat others as objects because they see only themselves. They neither listen nor see. Because pride plays a pernicious role in racism and class inequality, as well as sex discrimination, it offers us a way of understanding how one form of abuse is related to others, and especially, at this time in our national life, it invites us to reflect on how an unacceptable racial subordination and an unacceptable sexual subordination are intertwined aspects of a diseased national culture.”

I was always thinking about what kind of person I would be if I were not in the underprivileged class in this hierarchy system…would I be a person that I hate the most who believes in social Darwinism, and has the faith of elitism. Would it exist as a sort of mirror development…

I think I do have some condescension. The fundamental way I think of people might be the issue, which is a sort of objectification of a person. Morality is the surface.

I think the root cause of my hatred for humans is that the sense of discrepancy between the real world and my expectations is so great that I loathe the condescension and egotism from the bottom of my heart, humans are a very arrogant animal…

It is kinda stupid but I set this sentence as my credo and pinned it in my diary for a long time: Whatever changes I may undergo, my fundamental principle remains: I embrace and strive for a pluralistic world while standing with and supporting the disadvantaged.

To be honest, ever since I read Mill’s books when I was 16, I've seen him as my role model ...... I think at least on a moral level I'm willing to constrain my behavior from a broad utilitarian perspective. Although Kant once said that true moral behavior must be motivated by duty and goodwill, not utilitarian rational calculation, I think having consistency in outcomes is probably more practicable than forcing myself to discipline myself to be a moral standard-bearer… Though it also still brings up some unavoidable problems is all.

By the way, do you know about the Pirahã people? I came across an article about them before, which in many ways echoed what Wittgenstein said in the Tractus Logico-Philosophicus: the limits of language are the limits of the world.

Btw, regarding domestic violence, I’ve been reconsidering this issue. I believe we need to treat domestic violence cases with the same legal standards as general assault cases. If evidence collection is difficult in confined spaces without surveillance, this difficulty should be consistent across all violent crimes. The distinctive challenge of domestic violence in legal proceedings lies not merely in the universal problem of evidence collection that affects all violent crimes, but rather in the influence of cultural factors and institutional biases within the legal system itself. When courts adjudicate these cases, do they tend to frame them as ‘family disputes’ rather than criminal violence? Is victims’ reluctance to report their abusers influenced by cultural stigma? I believe these are the primary issues we must address and reform regarding this particular form of violence.